How to be BeDeliciously Abundant In Love | How To Attract Your Ideal Man


Firstly what does it mean to Be Deliciously Abundant in Love? Do you see that coming from someone else?

Isn’t it interesting how we find ourselves Looking elsewhere for that love?


I have been asked for advice on This many times.. plus other questions relating to the


Law of Attraction so I thought it about time I shared this…


and just a note, this can work for anything you want to attract…


….and just to let you in on a secret, I actually think its quite a good thing to be Single


… and Happy…. 



You Don’t Need A Man (or a woman or anything you ‘think you want)


You Build strength in yourself, You tell Yourself,


‘I can do this’..


you grow independent and you learn to rely on One Person




Yes its lovely to have that support by your side, 


However, Once you Love yourself, and become comfortable with yourself,

you can be Very happy.. single..


I have recently travelled across the world and around the UK ‘on my own’


and I was Deliciously Abundantly happy – Alone –


Imagine such a thing???? !!! 🙂 


and another note.. just because people keep saying


‘have you met someone yet’.. IGNORE it…


Thats their ‘stuff’ they are putting on you


I know from personal experience.. when people keep saying

Oh I thought you would have met someone by now’… 


It can really hurt and you whisper under your breath

“Don’t you think Im trying’ and thats just it’


We are Trying too hard…. ….. Relax.. and let it happen and follow these steps…


How To Attract Love

So Yes – those two go together Single AND Happy 🙂


Ok – so how to be Deliciously Abundant in Love, How to Attraction your ideal Man..


Well before I share with you, this true story – I want to share something else with you..


Just bear with me a minute


Before You can Attract Your Ideal Man/Woman...


There is Something You HAVE to do…




You have To Fall in Love with YOU…


Yes thats Right – Fall in Love with You…

i’ve written plenty of blogs about this – so Im not going to dwell on that…


So If You don’t Love yourself – and no thats not Conceit or Arragance..


its Love.. Comfortable..Accepting Yourself as You Are…


‘Actually I really like myself’..


Ok – so You are now loving yourself…

Giving You All The Wonderful Care and Attention


You Desire AND Deserve from your Partner


You Meditate, Take Walks in Nature, Have Fun…


Talk Lovingly To Yourself…


Yes – I mean it 🙂


AND You Are Giving That Love Out to Everyone…


yes even the mean kid/Neighbour/Family member…

Fall in Love with YOU


Be Comfortable with yourself…


and hence you are doing the next step


You are putting Love out there – 


Yes when you love yourself


You are Happier...


You Feel Good


Now this is is where gets interesting….


I heard this story a few years ago and just have to share….


Someone I know did this very exercise….and had the surprise of her life… several months later…


She wrote a list of 50 things she wanted in her ideal man….


  • Caring
  • Loving
  • Trusting
  • Adores me
  • Compassionate
  • Kind


you get the picture… just let everything you want in an ideal partner roll off your heart, your tongue….

And remember – whatever you want in someone else – You MUST be that person yourself… 

Give Everything You WANT in a partner, to yourself RIGHT NOW…

So she wrote down 50 things she wanted….and put the list away….


About a year later, she met a man –

didn’t think much about it…

until a few months after they met…

She then found her list –

He Was Everything she had written down…

Amazing isn’t it…

So – the ‘ingredients’ are 

Writing down what you want…

Putting It Out there….

and Relaxing,

Detaching and then going about your day and being in

Love with yourself and putting that out there…

Remember Get What You Give Out…

So Give Out Love, Kindness, Whatever It is You Want

and Believe Whatever You Want is On its way

So there you go, How to be Deliciously Abundant, How to Attract your Ideal Man

 There are Other ways you can attract what you want, which I share here… they all work…

If you do all this and You Still are not getting what you want….

Start to ask Yourself Positive Powerful Questions… to dig deep and find out WHY…

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PS If you Knew how long it took me to Accept and Love myself !!


  1. This one really hit home for me Helen:)

    I’ve spent most of my adult life in unhappy, unhealthy relationships. So much so, that when I finally found the courage to leave my last abusive relationship, I had no self worth, confidence and very little love for myself.

    Over the past three years, I have been able to slowly regain all of that, and am starting to love myself as I should.

    I now know that I don’t “need” a man to feel loved or happy. Maybe one day, but for now I am enjoying my life with my kids, and being single.

    Thanks for this!


  2. So true Helen to love others we must learn to love ourselves. Took me a long time to realize this……Thanks. KooKie Kathy

  3. Ray Ciafardini says:

    You really hit the nail on the head with this one Helen. When I look back at the great relationships that just “happened” throughout my life, occurred when I wasn’t looking for it and I was the happiest with myself. Now you have me thinking about this stretch of single living I’m in, and WHY. Great post!

  4. love all the tips you shared here helen. thanks so much

  5. Really inspiring post Helen. I believe that we do need to love ourselves first before we can even begin to attract anything in our lives, including a man, lol. I am madly in love with my husband (although it is my second marriage) he and I just know we are soul mates that we were meant to be. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight!

    • Helen Lingard says:

      I did not know that – Lynn, that it was your second marriage.. I know several friends who found their seconds husbands and he was the one.. thank you 🙂 so happy for you 🙂

  6. Thank you for sharing your insight Helen. While I have been married for almost 15 years (most of my life over 18), I still see great value in your post. I also agree that in order to love someone else, you must love thyself first. Thank you for sharing!!

    • Helen Lingard says:

      Thanks Joseph, glad you have a long happy marriage 🙂 thank you for your comment

  7. Daphne Dobson says:

    Thanks for this awesome post Helen!
    You’ve shared some great truths here…
    I absolutely agree with you. In order to attract the right person
    in your life, you have to first love and like yourself. Never wait for
    someone else to complete you. Learn to be happy with who you are.
    Thanks for sharing!

  8. Great post Helen. I’m definitely book marking this page for sure. Thanks for sharing 🙂