Where Is The Love? | Where is The Self Love?

I shared a Live about this subject this morning, on my facecbook page..

I share it at the end of this blog. come on, you’ve got to read this Blog and then you can go over there !! so Where is the Love?

 

Lets Start Being Kinder to Ourselves and Kinder to Others..
 

NB the Kinder we are to Ourselves, the Kinder we are to others, it just comes naturally, the very reason we are not kind to other people, is lack of Self Love, Self Acceptance…

This was me in 89, on my way to New Zealand… I was in Fiji – I look at this girl now and see a Stunner, Not so then…

 
It would be Several years ago, that I actually started to like myself… wasn’t an easy job, I can tell you..
 

.. I had grown up – always looking up to some friend or other,

who had
… Blue eyes

Bigger Boobs,

Taller than me.. you name it…

I copied peoples writing, their hair cuts, their dress, even their cars !! OMG where will it stop?

 
I remember about maybe 10 years ago, my daughter looking at photos of me with a friend and saying ‘Mum you were so pretty’… aside from the ‘you were?” WTF… I smiled and looked at the photo she was glancing at and thought
 
OMG I WAS!! all those years, where I simply thought ‘I wasn’t good enough’…
 
You see, there were so many times, when the guy I fancied, ended up with my best friend…
 
… one particular occasion, I had just cut my hand open… we were on the way to the hospital (it was a bad cut, I was a nurse, so I knew I needed stitches)… the guy who was driving me, was drunk – so crashed the car…
 
fortunateley another friend was behind and we all got into that car…
 
I sat in the front, glanced around to see my best friend promptly snogging my crush… Jeez!!.. Having just cut my hand open and been in a car crash, and now my best friend had hooked up with my crush???
 
As I grew older, I would become amazed when I good looking guy actually liked me… it would be like ‘Huh me? Really?…
 

… how I look back and I see this gorgeous woman I really wasn’t aware of… Wow was that me???

In the late 80’s, I had arrived in New Zealand, from the UK…  I had acquired what I thought was a great ‘job’….

it was working for a Cosmetic Surgery Clinic, very long hours but only a week on and then a week off…

Long story short… I had been off for a while and on return we had a new girl in reception.. a lovely girl.. however my jealousy and ‘why not me’ was to raise its ugly head again

It turned out this young girl, was a part time model…  She was a little bit taller than me… but other than that, I couldn’t see that we were much different, aside from me being about 8 years older than her

I was told when I was young, I looked like this amazing woman Candace Bergen.. OMG How I loved this compliment

…I took myself off to a Modelling Agency to see if I could be a part time model…

.. not that I wanted to be a Model, I just wanted to be able to say

‘Im good enough, to be a model’.. alas, they told me my face was too full of character, it wasn’t a blank canvas… I was gutted, devastated….

However, as I grew older, and started to Immerse myself in

Loving Myself, Self Acceptance, Personal Development.. you name it.. I started to Love and Accept Myself and hence I started to do that thing – that we women struggle to do sometimes….

I started to compliment other women on how good they look.. OMG.. what a revelation…

Even that gorgeous women you know, maybes shes a film star, model…

TV Actress.. who ‘you think’ knows shes gorgeous … she actually may not !!!

I found this out – when I started to compliment Gorgeous looking women…. they were so amazed and so flattered. I started to realise and read, that every woman, regardless of how gorgeous ‘you think ‘ she is…

We ALL have our insecurities…

I remember reading a magazine article a few years ago, about Cindy Crawford and despite us all thinking she was absolutely gorgeous in the 80’s, she was Incredibly insecure !!

Who would have thought…

So these days, Whilst I’m not madly in love with myself – I wish I had nicer legs, although my daughter (25) did tell me last Christmas

‘wow Mum, you have great legs for your age’

… Im not sure whose legs she had been looking at whose age were the same as mine, however having always disliked my legs

(I dislike the word ‘hate’) Ill take any compliment…

Plus I was told many years ago, I looked like Candace Bergen, once again a HUGE compliment…

… so Im happy to accept the things I DO Love about myself,

my hair, My eyes (Darkest brown I’ve ever seen accept on a Maori’, said my an ex boyfriend )

… my smile

… my shoulders

… my boobs, my butt (when its not too big)

…. and forget the rest…ha ha – what am I like !! (but can you relate?)

I can quite happily and lovingly and with All sincerity tell another woman or man, how good they look, their dress, their smell is.. without feeling it takes anything away from me…

and the look on their face is priceless… Absolute Joy…

So I ask you dear One, Dear Friend… You, Beautiful Woman that YOU ARE.. to start Loving You !!

Look in the mirror and start to Love and Accept the Person that Is YOU !!
Try it – I can Guarantee, You’ll feel so good doing it 🙂

oh and before I go, check this out… Isn’t it amazing

 

Helen

Come work with me, Im passionate about Helping You Become Your Best Version…

Send me an email me at Helen@HelenLingard.com and ask about My coaching

PS I shared this video a couple of years ago.. HUGE learning experience for me.. Enjoy…
I just Loved the thumbnail – so I left it 🙂  Click on my image and watch the video