Why Its Perfectly Fine To Be You | You are Not Alone

I shared this blog a year or so ago, it came up on my timeline so I thought well worth sharing again….

Maybe you are like me, and you haven’t always felt Perfectly Ok Being You….and I can’t count how many times I felt Alone.. .

I know Now

… Im far from alone in this thought….

Its only when I started to share my stories..

About my low self esteem when i was young….

… Being Bullied…

You know – Like Attracts LIke and When you Share Your stories..

you find so many other people who share the same story…

What You Think about  You Attract too..

so I wasn’t totally surprised when I found this video the other day, by one of my favourites Ralph Smart…

maybe – you’ve become ‘more spiritual’…

You know that there are no coincidences

…. that Everything happens for a reason and you have many of those situations where ‘things just happen’…

… You think about someone and they Call you...

You think about something and the next thing It happens

… This has happened to me in a good way and a Bad way !!

Your ‘friends’ just don’t get you – in fact they think you are Crazy….

Thats Ok – You are Not Alone – and Its Perfectly Fine to Be You...

You Don’t have To Change For Anyone…

If any of this resonates with you – then watch the video…

 You are Not  Alone and Its Perfectly Fine Just To Be You

Several years ago.. after I have started on my journey of Self Development, loving and experiencing the Law of Attraction I wanted to find other people ‘like me’…

I had friends like  ‘on line’ but not many ‘off line’. who knew or enjoyed what I was talking about.

you know Law of Attraction


All the things that ‘some’ people find ‘woo hoo’..

…. Michael Losier suggested (and yes I did get to talk to him via facebook) suggested starting my own group…

I started a Law of Attraction Group  in Wellington…

Helen Lingard

We met up every Sunday and other days in Summer… and talk about books that have inspired us and share our stories… of Law of Attraction, Positivity and You Get what You Put Out there..

You could either start one in your area, or go and search google for a Law of Attraction Group in your area.. Meet Up’s are All over the World…

Im not currently in New Zealand but I still keep in touch…and we keep in touch here.

I also have lots of groups on line where I connect with people like me!!

You know what the brilliant thing is About Being me  is,  I know Not Everyone gets me…

However, since working on Myself – I GET ME !! and thats Whats most important

… and when YOU GET You – Then Others Will “Gravitate’ to you too…

Know that Its Perfectly Ok to be You.. and as Ralph Smart shares.. not everyone will ‘get you‘.. but thats Ok.. you don’t get Everyone either do you?

Im finding currently – whilst being in the UK – I meet more and more people

just like me – and I know Its Perfectly Fine to be Me... – I am never alone...

and you know what – Im really happy being ‘alone’… i have travelled alone and yes sometimes I meet people who don’t get me.. but thats for another blog post… 🙂

So know that you are Never Alone.. There are Always more people out there just like you… and there is a whole Community Here..

We are Waiting for You –

Come and Join More Deliciously Abundant Creators…

and Know Its Perfectly Fine To be You..



and if you Only knew how I was feeling when I had this photo taken!

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  1. i believe the we can live our true authentic selves, the more we can inspire others

  2. Great post Helen. I can resonate with being alone. Back when I was younger, I also got bullied at school for being “black” and also I was the only one so I really stood out like a sore thumb. It took many years before I accepted myself for who I am and then gradually children were more accepting and learning about different people with different coloured skin and that in the dark we are all the same colour. Thank you so much for sharing 🙂

    • Helen Lingard says:

      ow we have so much in common Stephanie, whilst Im not ‘brown’ and I LOVE your colour… I was very shy etc when I was young.. – and look at you now 🙂 look at us both !! thank you

  3. A great post and I love that video Helen. I had not heard of Ralph Smart before so I have learned something new. It is the only way to be truly happy – to be ourselves. Hugs.

  4. This is an amazing post Helen! More people need to realize that it is okay and more importantly, learn why its perfectly fine to be you! So many nuggets here, I especially love that you talked with Michael Losier on Facebook and started your own Law of Attraction group in Wellington:)

    • Helen Lingard says:

      Oh Yes Kristine – I was amazed when he responded to my query… and thats how I started that group 🙂

  5. Yes it is perfectly fine to be you. I mean who else can we be right? There will always be people who won’t like you for what ever reason. Oh well.

  6. Ray Ciafardini says:

    Each of us are one of a kind, embrace it and enjoy it. Sometimes, we’re all we have and that’s OK and then we realize there’s more of us out there than we ever realized. Great idea on the LOA group.

  7. Daphne Dobson says:

    Great post Helen! I wish a lot more people believe that’s
    it ok to be themselves. Each and everyone of us are so unique.
    No two of us are the same just like no two snowflakes are the same.
    It all starts with belief. I love being me. Thanks so much for sharing!

    • Helen Lingard says:

      Absolutely Daphne I wish they would too… I love being me too – Although always improving 🙂

  8. You are not alone. You know this got me thinking. I started my Facebook journey to find people like me, to make new friends and really see what the world was really like. It has been such a wonderful journey. More than I could have asked for. Definitely love the Law of Attraction.

  9. Thank you for introducing me to this Ralph Smart guy.. his video and your blog Helen is right on point. It’s amazing how when we start to share our story that there are plenty of people who are just like us …so we are never truly alone <3

  10. It is perfectly fine to be you and love how you shared this Helen. The video is inspiring and a great reminder that we do live from within. That our alone time is developing the person we are and attracting those like people to appear in our lives. So that we can connect, build and grow. Really powerful post today, thanks for sharing!

    • Helen Lingard says:

      Thank you so much Lynn, Working on ourself is soo powerful glad you enjoyed it 🙂